Here's what's going on - as a child, whenever an experience overwhelmed our nervous system, we subconsciously built defenses against that overwhelm.

Over time, those defenses became a habit, and then they became a pattern. Now as an adult, what we think of as our personality, is often this defense pattern running the show. Interesting, right?!

The good news is that once we're aware of our patterns, we can learn skills to break them and shift our identity to the present and be our true selves!