Conflict is inevitable because we’re human, right?! So why not approach it in a beautiful and effective way with the people that matter most in our lives?

I've learned that my needs will be met when I show up in compassion - when I show up in responsibility.  When I show up in ownership of my feelings and needs. Ultimately, what we want is to feel more loved, seen, & heard, and this 4-step formula is a powerful tool for that.

Have you ever wondered why you do the things you do? Why you get so angry when your kids aren't listening to you? Why it's hard to relax when the house is a mess?

Here's what's going on - as a child, whenever an experience overwhelmed our nervous system, we subconsciously built defenses against that overwhelm.

Over time, those defenses became a habit, and then they became a pattern. Now as an adult, what we think of as our personality, is often this defense pattern running the show. Interesting, right?!

The good news is that once we're aware of our patterns, we can learn skills to break them and shift our identity to the present and be our true selves!