Hey there, super moms!
We’ve all been there – those moments when frustration takes over, and yelling becomes our default reaction. It’s okay, it happens to the best of us. Motherhood is a challenging journey, and sometimes, managing our emotions can feel like an uphill battle.
Perhaps you’ve found yourself yelling more since becoming a mom, and you’re not alone. Motherhood has a way of revealing our triggers and areas for growth, even if it’s not always a fun process.
So, if you’ve ever felt like the only mom who raises her voice, let this be a reminder: you’re not alone, you’re not crazy, and you’re not unfit for motherhood. Many of us struggle with expressing our emotions in healthy ways because, let’s face it, kids can be a handful.
Let’s dive into the reasons why we find ourselves yelling at our kids. It’s crucial to understand that our kids don’t make us yell; our triggers are our own to explore, get curious about, and ultimately, heal.
Coaching tip: Your kids are just being kids, and they’ll do things that might trigger your urge to yell. However, the tough truth is that your yelling is a coping strategy for an overwhelmed nervous system. It’s a signal to pay attention to your unmet needs.
To start exploring why you might be a yeller, let’s identify some common unmet needs that moms often face.
Unmet mom needs:
- Help and support
- Recognition and appreciation
- Order and organization
- Rest and sleep
- Nourishment and hydration
- Alone time and autonomy
- Connection and overcoming isolation
- Boundaries and their enforcement
- Stillness and reducing overstimulation
- Peace in the midst of chaos
Recognizing these unmet needs is the first step. When you notice yourself approaching that yelling zone, use your tools to bring yourself back to regulation. Somatic cues, such as a hot face, shallow breathing, or tensed shoulders, can be your indicators. Pay attention and grow in awareness so you can intervene before reaching full-blown rage.
If you find yourself losing your cool more than you’d like, consider 1:1 coaching to work on your triggers and emotions. You don’t have to be the angry mom; let 2024 be the year you learn to manage your anger and yelling. How powerful does that sound?
You’ve got this, super mom!
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