If you’ve ever wondered why you over-give to keep the peace, shut down to stay “strong,” or feel that push-pull of wanting closeness but fearing it—your attachment style is likely running the show behind the scenes.
In this episode, I’m joined by Jessica Baum, therapist and author of Anxiously Attached and Safe. We break down attachment theory in real, everyday terms—how early experiences shape the way you love, what “secure” actually feels like in your body, and how to move from survival patterns to safe, connected relationships.
We’re diving into:
✔️ The 4 attachment patterns (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)—and why most of us are blends depending on the person and season
✔️ How anxious people-pleasing/self-abandonment and avoidant “I’m fine” independence form—and practical steps to heal (interoception, anchoring relationships, and rupture & repair)
✔️ Raising (and re-raising) secure: what kids need now, why it’s never too late to repair, and the role of friendship/community in feeling safe
If you’re ready to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop and start feeling secure from the inside out—this conversation is for you.
🎧 Press play to learn how to identify your patterns, rewire toward safety, and build relationships that actually feel good to your nervous system.
P.S. Jessica’s new book Safe is out everywhere. Grab it via the link in the show notes to get her Attachment Wheel and a bonus video on moving from insecurity to security.
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- 5 Ways to Create Calm & Safety in Your Nervous System
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